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Child Sexual Abuse Prevention: Teaching Children to be Safer and Smarter

January 22, 2015 by Scarlet

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Sexual child abuse- that could never happen to our children. I certainly hope not but I combine hope with proactive education. I know several people that were abused as children and still suffer from these adverse childhood experiences. Therefore, I recognize it is a real danger and there are ways we can help prevent abuse.

That is why I am so honored to have Lauren Book share with us today. Lauren Book, M.S.Ed., is a child sexual abuse survivor and an internationally respected child advocate and educator. She who works to prevent child abuse and help survivors heal. Through in-school curriculum, legislative advocacy and speaking engagements, Lauren Book works to educate communities and raise awareness about the growing issue of child sexual abuse. Lauren’s Kids is an organization founded and led by Lauren Book. It has created Safer, Smarter Kids, an abuse prevention education curriculum designed for pre-K and elementary-aged children. I am thankful to her being so brave and working to educate others on child abuse prevention

Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Tips

Lauren Book

By Lauren Book

Every child deserves a safe, happy and healthy childhood. This includes the carefree innocence that comes with feeling secure, protected and loved. Although this is our hope for each and every child, the reality is that there are millions of children who do not experience the childhood they deserve. In fact, I was one such child stripped of my childhood at the hands of someone my family and I trusted, my female nanny. I wish I could say my experience is rare. However, the truth is my story is similar to the stories of so many other children.

Although my life was colored by the experiences I had as a young girl, I have made it a point to choose that color. I work every day to help make the world a safer place for children. The terrible reality is that 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 5 boys in the United States are sexually abused before their 18th birthdays. Like many of these children, I did not know how to recognize the unsafe situation I was in or the traps my abuser was setting. By the time my abuse began, the fear, shame and blame I felt was overwhelming. It caused me to suffer in silence for six years. Unfortunately, my friends and family also did not recognize the signs.

Armed with the knowledge that 95 percent of child sexual abuse can be prevented through education and awareness, I decided to use my story to help others in similar situations. In 2007, I started the Lauren’s Kids foundation, a nonprofit organization based in South Florida. It seeks to prevent abuse and help survivors heal.

Teaching Children to be Safer and Smarter For Prevention of Sexual Abuse

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Child sexual abuse can happen anywhere. In any neighborhood, religion or church group, racial or ethnic group. It happens among the rich and the poor and everywhere in between. Knowing this, child safety and abuse prevention education is needed in each and every community. We aim to give children, parents and teachers the resources and knowledge base to protect children.

Here are a few safety tips for you and your child.

Tattling vs. Reporting

Often young children are discouraged by their peers from being “tattle-tales”. They may be shunned for telling an adult every time they see something “bad” happen. Discuss the difference between tattling and reporting with your child. Reporting is when someone is in danger. Reportable things include touching in uncomfortable areas and saying things that make a child feel confused or “icky”. It is also something the child should report if an someone is asking a child to go somewhere alone that the child does not want to or if they feel unsafe. It must be made clear that reporting is always, always OK. Make sure your child understands that you’d rather your child report something they may feel unsure about rather than keep it a secret.

Think, Feel, Act

Discuss with your child the idea of “Think, Feel, and Act”: When something confusing happens, first, think about what has happened and ask “Is this safe? Is this something I should report to an adult?”. Then they should ask themselves how they feel. Do they feel uncomfortable, icky, or unsure if the act was safe? Do they feel confused or ashamed? If so, they should act by telling a trusted adult, teacher or someone in charge. Remember, it’s always better to report something that made them feel uncomfortable than to keep it a secret.

Ask For Help!

It’s important to help children establish a “Trusted Triangle,” a list of three adults that your child can go to whenever they need help or feel uncomfortable about a situation. Teach your child that when they share information to keep themselves or their friends safe, it’s reporting, not tattling. Children should know that when their guiding voice is telling them something is wrong, it’s always OK to use their “I Mean Business Voice” to say, “Stop! That’s not safe.” They should continue to tell a trusted adult until they get the two “H’-s”: heard and helped.

Child Sexual Abuse Education

As a former educator, I know that when we teach children that it is always OK to tell if something or someone is making them feel scared, confused or icky, we provide them with a very necessary tool to protect themselves. In 2012, Lauren’s Kids launched the Safer, Smarter Kids abuse prevention curriculum. This curriculum teaches children what to do if they feel like something is not quite right or if they believe they are in an unsafe situation.

Safer, Smarter Kids consists of age-appropriate lessons for children ranging from pre-K to grade three with fourth and fifth grade, middle and high school installments becoming available in the 2015-2016 school year. If your child’s teacher is not currently teaching this curriculum, you may encourage them to visit SaferSmarterKids.org to request their curriculum today.

child sexual abuse prevention

Through the Lauren’s Kids foundation, I work each and every day to prevent child sexual abuse and help survivors heal through advocacy, awareness and education. Each March and April, I lead a 1,500-mile “Walk in My Shoes” walk across the state of Florida, beginning at the southernmost point of the U.S. in Key West, walking north and criss-crossing from coast to coast, community to community until I reach the steps of the historic Capitol in Tallahassee on April 22. I walk to educate communities, advocate for legislative change to better protect children and support survivors and to create a safer tomorrow for families living in the Sunshine State.  To learn more and view the walk schedule, visit LaurensKids.org.

More Resources:

What Keeps Us from Talking about Sexual Abuse
There are countless reasons why it can be extremely difficult to speak about sexual abuse. Especially as it affects our own lives or the lives of those we care about.
https://www.stopitnow.org/ohc-content/what-keeps-us-from-talking-about-sexual-abuse

Recovering from Rape and Sexual Trauma
The healing process takes time and can be painful. But remember that it is possible to regain your sense of control and rebuild your self-worth. Learn how to be kind to yourself to allow the space and time you need to heal.
https://www.helpguide.org/articles/ptsd-trauma/recovering-from-rape-and-sexual-trauma.htm

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  1. Jayneen Sanders says

    January 23, 2015 at 9:35 pm

    Thank you so much for placing a focus on personal Body Safety Education. It is crucial to get our parents and the community on board to make Body Safety a normal part of the parenting conversation. Well done to both yourself and Lauren!

    • christie says

      January 26, 2015 at 11:12 pm

      Your awesome.i was also hurt as a child and as a adult. I give you much praise and props for not staying silent about what happens to so many of us. We are most definitely survivors.

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