If you are feeling less confident in your clothing lately, it may be time for a style wardrobe refresh! Whether your body has changed and things just aren’t fitting right or if your lifestyle has changed and you just don’t feel like you have clothing that matches the occasion, there are times when your fashion may need a reset. Becoming a mother can sometimes leave us feeling a little frumpy. Don’t settle for that. Fight the frump! Moms can be just as fashionable and fabulous as they were before they become a mom. With a few simple swaps and the right mindset, you can be on your way back to feeling confident in your style. That is why I am so happy to share a Mom Wardrobe Challenge with you today with expert tips from Lauren Messiah, a personal stylist and author of the recently released book: Style Therapy.
Lauren Messiah is revolutionizing the way people dress through her comprehensive approach to elevating one’s life through style, working from the inside out. With her signature method of combining style with personal development, Lauren bridges personal styling and life coaching to curate a closet and look that supports one’s goals. Her tips help take the stress and self-doubt out of looking one’s best. She is a celebrity stylist, educator and digital influencer that has coached over 5,000 clients globally through her online courses.
Lauren recently released her latest book, Style Therapy: 30 Days to Your Signature Style (Abrams, April 2021), as a 30-day active approach to building a personal style and shedding emotional baggage. Through her book, she empowers readers to shop like a stylist, find clothes that support goals and build confidence to tackle any situation with the right look and attitude.
Building Confidence Through Style
By Lauren Messiah
Confidence and style go hand in hand. How you show up in the world impacts how you feel and act throughout the day.
I don’t care if the only person who sees you on any given day is your screaming 2-year old. You see you and that matters. This doesn’t mean you need to be a full-on fashionista, but it does mean moving style up higher on the priority list.
Prioritizing style means prioritizing your confidence. Increased confidence is proven to reduce stress and anxiety, eliminate self-doubt, makes you more positive, sexier, and happier.
Who wouldn’t want to experience those benefits? Especially moms. Full disclosure: I am not a mom, however as a stylist I have worked with over 5,000 women, the majority being moms. So I understand the struggles like; clothing that no longer fits, little grabby baby hands ripping out earrings, spit-up covered sweaters, the pressure to “bounce back” and to look good in the school pick-up line.
I have three easy style tips that will instantly increase your confidence and overall happiness – no shopping required. Make sure to complete all three step of this mommy wardrobe challenge in order to get the most out of it.
Wardrobe Challenge: Fight The Frump And Refresh Your Mom Fashion Style
1.) Get rid of (or put away) anything that doesn’t fit
Nothing destroys confidence faster than a pair of jeans that won’t zip. Do yourself a favor and get rid of anything that doesn’t fit the body you have now. I don’t care if it’s baby weight or the quarantine fifteen, we don’t need a daily reminder that our bodies have changed. Donate or consign items that doesn’t fit, you’ll make someone else really happy or you’ll put a few dollars back in your pocket. If you swear you’re going to lose the weight, move the items that don’t fit into another part of your home and revisit those items once you’ve dropped the extra weight.
2.) Create a closet sanctuary – for the brief moments when you’re alone
Time spent alone is precious when you’re a mom, so any brief moments of solitude should be luxurious. Set aside a few hours and turn your closet into a sanctuary. Merchandise your clothes so all like items are together, swap out your dry cleaning hangers for velvet hangers, set up a station for your accessories, and some scented sachets if the mood strikes you. Turn your closet in a space you’re excited about, I mean you do start your day here every single day.
3.) Style for your new identity (without losing the old you)
One of the biggest hurdles my new mom clients have to overcome is the loss of their old style identity. Pre-pregnancy clothes no longer fit, certain garments no longer feel appropriate, and a dramatic lifestyle change calls for a new wardrobe. The first step is to get clear on the woman you’re becoming, and the pieces from the “pre-baby you” that you’d like to hang on to.
In clearing out the old, it will become easier to see what you are really working with. Do you enough basic capsule wardrobe pieces? Do have a few statement pieces that make you feel stylish and confident? What items do you need more of to make you feel comfortable and confident in your new routine?
Once you access your current wardrobe, from there you can begin to cultivate a style that is authentic to you. You can get my free wardrobe checklist here!
I’ll leave you with this; style isn’t reserved for the rich, famous, young, and thin. Style is for everyone and with a little bit of work you can transform your style, increase your confidence, and change the trajectory of your life for the better – I promise!
Thanks again to Lauren Messiah for sharing these tips to help moms adjust their wardrobe and style so they can fight frump and feel confident in their style again. Do you think you will try this wardrobe challenge? Let us know how it goes @familyfocusblog and @LaurenMessiah!