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How To Deal With Adversity

April 17, 2015 by Rob Youngblood

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Lately, my little man has had to deal with some adversity and tough times in his life. His beloved grandmother passed away, his best buddy is moving to another country, and he has been let down by a few adults around him. It makes me sad to see him (or any child) go through a rough stretch but there are some positive things that kids can learn in these situations where they have to deal with adversity. In fact, adversity can actually help us grow as people. That is why you will often see questions on applications that prompt, “describe a time when you had to deal with adversity”.

Tips For Dealing With Adversity

One of the greatest lessons to be learned is resiliency. How do children act when trouble shows up. Resiliency is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, disappointment, or other significant sources of stress. In short, resiliency is the ability to “bounce back” from difficult experiences. People regularly demonstrate resiliency, it is not an extraordinary trait but it does take a while to learn. Resilient people have certain skills and abilities in common and I firmly believe that it is never too early to start teaching these skills to children. Heck, you may need a refresher yourself sometimes.

how to help your child deal with adversity and build resilience

Here are 10 things that resilient people do on a regular basis:

  • Resilient people are social and they develop healthy relationships. Connection is natural and desirable to them.
  • They are optimistic and look at the world, and their future, in a positive way.
  • They are flexible and accept that change is a part of life.
  • Self confidence is a big part of their world. Resilient people move toward goals and base their choices on they own instincts. They have great confidence in their own abilities.
  • They are competent and are good at something (or many things). In addition, they are aware of their own skills.
  • People with show resiliency have insightfulness and understand people and situations.
  • They persevere. They continue on despite difficulty and don’t give up.
  • Resilient people keep things in perspective and try to see even difficult situations in the right light. A crisis is a challenge to be faced, rather than an insurmountable obstacle.
  • They show self control and manage strong feelings and impulses wisely.
  • They have thick skin. There will always be people who don’t like them or agree with them but they know to not take it personally.
How To Deal With Adversity

Teaching Kids Resiliency And How To Deal With Adversity:

So, with all of that said, how do we teach these traits to our children? Obviously the best way is to lead by example but there are also simple and easy steps to take to help them learn.

  • Teach them problem solving strategies and real world ways of getting things accomplished.
  • Be a role model of empathy and tolerance. Show them that doing the right thing and being a good person is always the correct choice – even when it is hard.
  • Promote strong adult-child relationships that are characterized by positive communication. This can be done anywhere and everywhere including at school, at home, on the playground, in athletics, etc.
  • Interact warmly and try to limit criticism. Positive reinforcement goes a long way – with kids and adults!
  • Promote sharing of responsibilities and service to others.
  • Teach relationship building skills. How to handle conflict – both verbally and non verbally.
  • Initiate conversations about emotions and encourage them to talk about their feelings. Offer positive suggestions for expressing emotions.
  • Be honest. Tell them that life is not always easy but also tell them that difficulty is something that can be handled.
  • Constantly let them know that challenges and set backs are not permanent and anything can be figured out. Believing that they can conquer the world is half the battle!

Dealing With Adversity Quotes

Here are a few of my favorite adversity quotes to inspire you.

“Show me someone who has done something worthwhile, and I’ll show you someone who has overcome adversity.” -Lou Holtz

“Turning feelings into words can help us process and overcome adversity.” -Sheryl Sandberg

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.” -Winston Churchill

“The gem cannot be polished without friction, nor man perfected without trials.” – Chinese Proverb

“A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor.” – English Proverb

“The greater the obstacle, the more glory in overcoming it.” – Molière

I hope you found these tips for how to help your child deal with adversity and for teaching resiliency useful.  Helping your children (and the children around you) develop resiliency will enable them to better manage any crisis or stress they they might experience. Everyday life is often tough but you and your child are tougher!  May these adversity quotes inspire you. What are your tips for teaching kids to deal with adversity?


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Rob Youngblood is an Emmy Award Winning TV Host, Men’s Life and Style Expert, Communication Consultant, Keynote Speaker, and A Guy Who Talks for a Living! You can follow him on Twitter.

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  1. angela@spinachtiger says

    April 18, 2015 at 8:12 am

    Great advice. I remember many times Marshall running upstairs to hide and I would make him come down and work it out, telling him to face his problems, never run from them. We would talk about it and it was so hard for him to make a mistake and accept that.

  2. Geoff Nixon says

    April 26, 2015 at 6:02 pm

    This is an inspiring but intimidating list of behaviors to model for your children. For parents of children with learning difficulties, this is a particularly hard and possibly soul-destroying list. They do not have the avenue of meaningful conversation at the level suggested here and role modelling is generally not recognized by their struggling children.

    It would be interesting to think of a comparable list of goals for children with learning difficulties. My guess is it would include interim steps focused on confidence, self-control and social skills, with the higher level ideas, such as insight into others perspectives deferred until older.

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