There is no doubt that children need structure and rules. Those charts and point systems, as rigid as they are, work. Whether you are a new parent just learning how to discipline kids or a well-seasoned parent who is having trouble sticking to rules and charts, renowned parenting expert, Haleh Rabizdeh Resnick, has the advice you need.
How To Discipline Your Kids
The busy mother of five knows far too well the challenges presented daily when raising children. What can you do to have some order in your home? Here are some tips for disciplining kids from Haleh Rabizadeh Resnick, the author of Little Patient Big Doctor.
by Haleh Rabizdeh Resnick
Parents Rule- You Are King and Queen
Discipline requires understanding of hierarchy. If you are an equal, you have no authority to discipline. You eat first. No one sits on your chair. Kids should knock before entering your room. Have your children carry packages for you. For those of you who are thinking, but I want to be an accessible parent- you can still be kind, communicative, and that parent who plays games with their children- just sit in your seat and get the snack bowl first.
Bring Back: “Because I said so.”
It’s nice to give our children choices and bring them in on decision making when they are two. But as they grow older, you can’t and shouldn’t always give an explanation. Use “Because I said so” when they are young to get them used to it. It’s valid. You are the leader- you don’t always need to explain yourself.
Punishment? Let Them Clean!
This business of punishment being directly related to the crime committed- it’s just too hard to figure out. So, if a kid is polluting your environment by bad behavior, they can clean it for you- on the spot. Clean the car if you are in the car or the kitchen if that’s where you are!
If you want to criticize, make sure you praise. Write a note or send a text daily with something good your child did (ok I know daily is hard- but give it a shot). Of course, it’s great to say it with a hug- but sometimes writing that note- makes a difference. Praise is very effective for encouraging positive behavior.
No one takes direction from leaders who knock themselves. They will soon lose their followers. Stop criticizing yourself and start complimenting yourself in front of your kids- you’ve done a great job- they are here and alive with a parent who cares enough to be reading this article.
Thanks again to Haleh Rabizadeh Resnick, author of Little Patient Big Doctor (affiliate link below). She speaks nationwide on parenting and health advocacy. Contact her to come to your community!
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