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When Your Child Is Not Doing Well In School

December 26, 2014 by Scarlet

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Child not doing well in school? Looking for some tips on how you can help your child succeed in school? Well, I am happy to have Leon Scott Baxter, the author of the newly released parenting book, Secrets of Safety-Net Parenting, (affiliate link) share with us his tips. He shares what to do when your child is not doing well in school and tips for how to help your child do better in school.

He’s been an elementary school teacher for eighteen years and he is parent of two happy, successful daughters, ages eleven and fifteen. The first step is talking with your child about why they are not doing well in school and addressing any issues. If your child still seems to resist studying for school, these tips should help.

What Do You Do When Your Child Is Not Doing Well In School? Find Your Child’s Passion!

I have been a parent for fifteen years, but a teacher for eighteen. So you might think that in my mind, a child’s success is determined by his academic progress. And, you’d be right…when I’m wearing my “teacher hat” (a velvet green number with a tassel). But, when I don my “daddy hat,” (a fedora-like thing with a feather) I realize there’s more to success than school. Here I will share with you my parenting advice for when your child is not doing well in school.

parenting advice for when your child is not doing well in school

Isn’t School Integral for Success in Life?

Some of the most successful people in the world did poorly in school (Albert Einstein, Winston Churchill, Isaac Newton, Peter Jackson, Peter Jennings), while others even dropped out of high school (Richard Branson, Quentin Tarantino, Vidal Sassoon, Jim Carrey and Elton John).

The thing is, as parents we often look at our child’s success through the lens of academic growth. And, why not? That’s what our children are spending most of their time doing, seven hours a day, five days a week for thirteen years. Why wouldn’t they be good at school since they spend so much time there? Yet, some kids, just struggle academically, and for many, they begin to dislike going to class, feel bad about themselves, and give up on school.

What’s a Parent to Do?

If you are thinking, “My child is smart but not doing well in school,” then this message is directed right at you.  Often we yell and fight and struggle with our children. We threaten and consequence when they don’t want to study, won’t do their homework or don’t pass a test. But, the secret is not in pushing school so hard. It’s all about finding their passion.

When a child who struggles in school is allowed to explore their passion, anxiety vanishes and suddenly they enjoy what they are doing (biking, painting, dance, building).

When anxiety is gone, you as a parent have the opportunity to join your child in the passion she loves, and your child will make a positive association with you as the parent who is participating in what she loves, and not forcing her to do what she avoids.

How To Find The Passion

To find your child’s passion, you watch him. What is it that he gravitates toward when the TV is off and the screens are put away? Listen to her. When you are driving her to soccer practice or sitting at the dinner table, what does she talk about? Good chance this is her passion.  If you still don’t know, explore some new activities or areas of learning. Here are a few ideas for things kids can do.

Do I Give Up On School?

Not at all. Here’s the beauty of passions. Once a child finds their passion, they return to it, and the passion becomes a strength. Once they have a strength, they feel successful. When a person feels successful they also begin to feel confident and able to venture into areas that are more challenging.

How Does That Relate to School?

Your daughter wins an art contest. She’s elated, on Cloud 9. You tell her how proud you are of her. You offer kudos and praise. Then, you tell her, “Let’s chip away at some of that homework and I’ll take you out to a celebratory ice cream.” Good chance she’ll jump into that homework for a number of reasons:

  1. She’s got endorphins flowing from her recent success.
  2. She is associating your interaction positively since you previously were a part of her passion, and
  3. She has seen that success takes work. Winning the art contest took patience and practice to make her passion a strength.

Now, she may not ever become the top student in her trig class or get an A+ on her English final, but with confidence in her passions, success in her strengths, and a parent there to support, but not force, there’s a good chance that she’ll stop resisting school, especially when she starts seeing the successes on her report card. With the anxiety level lowered, she will resist less, and start to find more success at school.

Conclusion

Success builds confidence, which leads to working harder which brings her back to more success, a wonderful success-confidence-academic cycle which will make everyone pleased.  I hope you find my parenting advice for when your child is not doing well in school useful.  Feel free to leave comments or questions.

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  1. Uplifting Families says

    December 29, 2014 at 5:54 pm

    I usually talk to my kids first and find out what they think is the problem. Then I will address the situation with my child’s teacher or call one of the school administrators.

  2. Jean Tracy says

    December 31, 2014 at 10:16 pm

    I appreciate your tips for not resisting school and how success build on success.

  3. Talesha Savage says

    January 1, 2015 at 8:11 pm

    I often tell parents that allowing children to tap into their passion helps them propel in school for the same reasons mentioned above. As a parent it is sometimes difficult to break away from the normal routine of school, snack, homework, dinner, bed, but when I create space and time for my son to do what he loves and I help with it, I have noticed his enthusiasm increase for working on school projects, homework, reading, etc. The most challenging part is finding the 10-20 minutes to allow that outlet for the child. Great advice provided in this post.

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