This open letter is straight from my heart to any woman that does not respect a wedding ring and pursues or allows herself to be pursued by a married man. It is written to help you understand what the wife goes through. This letter applies to those that engage in emotional affairs and/or sexual cheating.
Open Letter To The Woman Who Doesn’t Respect The Wedding Ring
Maybe you don’t know what a wedding ring means. Sure you know it means taken, but you think maybe it really just means fun challenge. Nope. It means 23 years that I loved this man. It means 15 years since we both said “unto death do us part.” It means 3 babies of his that I have given birth to. It means more “I love you”s than you can conceive of. It means hard work, compromise, and tears that we have shared.
Maybe the fact that you are ignoring the sanctity of marriage means nothing to you. Maybe you think if you can take it, then it is yours. Well, what you steal still belongs to someone else. And you aren’t just stealing from me, you steal from my children. You steal, the father that was a hero in their lives. You steal the words right out of my mouth because how can I tell them? What do I say?
Maybe your grandmother never told you to do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Well, I hope you learn that lesson eventually and I am sure you probably will when someone else, some day down the road, doesn’t respect your husband’s wedding ring.
Maybe you are just in a low place and really need some love and didn’t stop to think about what it really meant to anyone besides yourself. Well, it means you put me into a low place. A super low place where everything I thought I had, everything I thought was rock solid, is shaken. And I have to pick up the pieces and go on even though I was betrayed or I have to call it quits and shatter my world and my children’s world.
I know this isn’t all your fault, but frankly, you should not underestimate how your simple, selfish actions can ruin other people’s lives. Oh, do you think I am being over dramatic? Try explaining that my children as our lives are turned upside down and I wonder, do we have to move? Do they have to go to a new school? Will I be able to keep myself together and be a good mother to them when I feel like my head and heart are exploding?