As a parent, it can be a huge source of stress when you need to talk to your child about important issues in life. You could evade this fork in the road but you risk your child learning about certain issues in life from peers that are often misguided. It is your role as a parent to make sure that your child gets the proper perspective on important issues that he will face in the future. So the next time an important issue does come up with your child, whether it is the death of a family pet, information about the “birds and the bees”, or a tough situation at school, you may want to keep the following tips in mind. Here is how to talk to your kids about tough issues such as death, sex, or divorce.
How to Tackle Important Issues with Your Child:
Create an open environment
Right off the bat, if you have created an environment that you allow your child to be open with you, then this may mean less work you when you do need to discuss delicate matters. Experts note that a child that has been reared having an open environment with their parents often are able to talk about matters that are deemed “delicate.”
Learn from others
When do you really talk about the birds and the bees? When does “the talk” really happen? It may be simple but it creates a lot of anxiety for parents. Read up on how to set the tone about the facts of life before children gets the information from their peers. Learning from other people sets your mind and disposition to engage with your children. A great way to learn from others is simply by reading forum threads on the Internet or reading parenting books at the library. After seeing several ideas, you will usually know which one you identify with.
It starts with a question
Any talk about an important topic starts with a question. Real conversations begin when you are ready to answer the question that a child has in mind. Explain things at a level he or she can understand. It would help if you can insert real-life scenarios and events that he can relate to.
There is no right or wrong question
Let the child understand that what he is asking about makes a lot of sense. Let them work through their thoughts and help him drive at a conclusion or help him form an opinion. This will help develop his or her thoughts or position on a topic or an issue. Lead the child to answer their own questions through problem solving and rectify it if needed.
Ease if confused
Confusion can bring a lot of anxiety to a child. This could wane his interest in seeking answers the issues. Make sure that you are able to coax him or her back to track. A child can easily feel stress if he or she feels that confusion makes them a dumb person. Do not let them feel that way. Tell your child that it is okay to be confused and its natural. From there, you can start explaining things to the child.
Never allow the discussion take place in a very uncomfortable state. Make sure your child is relaxed and is ready to listen. Forcing your child to listen is the last thing you should do. Otherwise the discussion will go nowhere.
Handling issues with your children is something you that will come up over and over in new ways. The key is that you are able to understand what they want to know and how to explain it fully to them. It takes guts to explain some things to them. Handling it well can lead to valuable discussions in understanding the facts of life and in keeping the doors open for communication.