Creating a strong marriage is not always easy; it requires patience and effort. It involves much more than just simply living under the same roof. For a marriage to endure, it must be nurturing, supportive, emotionally fulfilling and enhance each individual’s sense of self esteem. And once children enter the picture, the task of maintaining a healthy relationship becomes significantly more challenging. Here are some ideas and tips for how to keep a marriage strong while raising your children.
What Happens To Marriage After Kids?
Marriage after kids- what happens? Adding a baby to the mix can be amazing for your marriage in the sense that you go through an amazing journey together and you receive a miracle together. However a baby requires a ton of energy can shift your priorities. That means you can both be more tired and less focused on each other. That can a recipe for disappointment. Marriage takes work to maintain.
Marriage after kids can be harder because there are more distractions but it can also be more rewarding. You have to work to put each other first and remember caring for each other and your marriage isn’t selfish! It is important you do so for your children too. Raising children can be all-consuming and it’s easy to let the marital relationship slip to the bottom of the “to do” list. Don’t let that happen to you.
How To Keep A Marriage Strong
There is no secret formula for keeping your marriage strong; it’s the little things you do day in and day out that can make all the difference.
Put your relationship with your partner first.
If you have a loving, positive relationship you greatly increase the odds that your children will thrive; grow up well-adjusted, emotionally and physically healthy and do better in school, relationships and life in general. Keeping your marriage strong will have a positive affect on your children and it is a gift to your children.
Talk to each other about everything.
Happily married couples are each other’s best friends. They openly share their thoughts, feelings and concerns. You both need to master the art of active listening and showing the other that you have heard and understood their shared feelings. It’s particularly important to work through any disagreements about parenting, so that the children aren’t getting mixed messages.
Share your feelings.
Successful couples create a safe place where they can freely express anger and deal with conflict, without fear that it will jeopardize the relationship. That one can be hard for couples that don’t like to disagree but it is important to share feelings not bury them. Sharing your feelings can help your partner be more empathic to your point of view. You also need to listen allow your partner to share their feelings and feel heard.
Foster intimacy in your relationship each and every day.
Emotional and physical intimacy is essential in a marriage. No matter how busy you are trying to balance work and family life, make sure you put the strollers aside and make time for the gestures and thoughtful little things that let your partner know that you are thinking about them, that you miss them when you’re apart and that you love being near them. A personal note slipped into their jacket pocket or briefcase or an enthusiastic hug when you’ve been apart all day, is a reminder that you’re still there and you still care. And don’t confuse physical intimacy with sexual intimacy. Make it a habit to touch each other frequently. Whether you hold hands, cuddle up when you’re talking, or simply give your partner’s shoulder a gentle squeeze as you pass by, a caring touch is one of the most intimate things you can do.
Become a skilled lover.
Contrary to popular belief, good lovers aren’t born that way; they acquire their lovemaking skills through practice, experimentation and innovation. Marital sex can easily become predictable and boring if a couple doesn’t make an effort to keep it exciting and fun. Open communication about sexuality and a willingness to try new things is the key to keeping the magic alive. Establish clear boundaries with your children to ensure that you protect your private time as a couple.
Finding ways to implement these tips for how to keep a marriage strong is not always easy. It takes planning, effort, and creativity. Most of all it takes commitment. But in the end it’s worth it, for you, your partner and your children. I hope these marriage tips help inspire you to spend some time on your marriage and work on strengthening your marriage. It is sure to result in more happiness for you and for your kids.