Your marriage is the rock your world is built on and if you have kids, it is their foundation as well. However, it is easy to take it for granted or put it on the back burner. With Valentine’s Day around the corner, let your love take the front seat. Take the “What I Love About You” Challenge- it will let make your partner feel special and loved and it will help you refocus your priority back to your marriage.
The idea for this super cute challenge came from a reader, Tory Grooms, who contacted me on Instagram with her fabulous idea. Today, she will share with you how you can take the “What I Love About You” Challenge and enjoy the results.
The Sweetest Gift I Ever Gave My Husband
I am Tory Grooms and I am currently a stay at home mommy taking a gap year and a half between my undergrad and starting pharmacy school at Belmont University. My husband and I have been together for nearly three years now and we have a sweet boy who is turning one this week. I love my job as a wife and mommy, and I love encouraging other women in these roles as well. Sometimes life gets hard, but it is so much easier and sweeter when we love and support one another.
Take The “What I Love About You” Challenge
I want to share this simple “What I Love About You” challenge every person who reads this to do this for their spouse. (Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching… HINT HINT, but this works for anniversaries, birthdays and just-because days.) So here it is, think about your spouse and fill in the blank, “I love…” I want you to write down as many things as you can think of that you love about your spouse. Get creative.
I’ll give you a couple of ideas to help you when your big ideas start to slow down.
What I Love About You Examples:
- Funny nicknames that y’all share. (“I love YOU, Hubby.”)
- Your favorite physical features. (“I love your lips.”)
- Your daily routine. (“I love our family dinners.”)
- Inside jokes. (“I love when you pinch me playfully.”)
- Your roles as a family unit. (“I love watching you play with Wally.”)
- Memories that you have shared. (“I love house hunting with you.”)
- Shared hobbies. (“I love working out with you.”)
- The way you flirt. (“I love when you kiss my neck.”)
- Intimate moments only you share. (“I love making love to you.”)
This Challenge Is Good For Your Marriage
This simple act of thinking about your spouse in a hundred positive ways is so good for you and your marriage. We have all experienced the kind of love that bubbles over without any effort. But there are times in marriage when it takes effort to push negative thoughts aside and instead dwell on the positive things that we love so much about our spouse. So take this time, however much that you have available, and write down as many things as you can so that you will be able to share this list with your spouse. It’s a great act for us to clean the darkness out our brains to make room for light which will help us love deeper, but it is also so necessary to share your uplifting words with your spouse to reboot your marriage intimacy.
How you share your list of love is up to you. If you don’t have a lot of time a simple list on a sheet of paper will work perfectly and will be cherished just the same. But if you have a little bit more time, you can get more creative and make the outpouring of your heart a work of art.
For my presentation, I used scrapbook paper and I cut out a bunch of hearts. I used two big ones in the center for my “I love…” and then filled in a bunch (over 50) smaller hearts with my list. I then taped all of the hearts up on our bedroom wall and totally surprised my husband for Valentine’s Day!
This simple act blew him away, to this day, he will still say that this is the most special gift that he has ever gotten. So go ahead and take the The “What I Love About You” Challenge. I think you and your loved one will be so glad you did!
Update 2021: There is now a book called What I Love About You by Frankie Jones. It is another great resource that has the same idea as The Challenge. It helps you but your attention on the good things so you can express appreciation and be filled with love. It is available through my affiliate Amazon link.
What I Love About You by Frankie Jones is a fill in book to help prompt you in expressing your love in meaningful ways. As you respond to the questions and fill in the blanks, you will feel loving. When they read your answers, they are sure to feel loved. Feeling loved allows people to drop their defenses and give love more freely. It is a fabulous cycle to feed!
Sample What I Love About You Book Questions
The first time I say you, I thought…
I like the way you say…
You are different from everyone else because…
This song always reminds me of our first meeting…
When I dream about you, I dream about…
When you look in the mirror, I hope you see that…
Without you, I would never have had the courage to…
When I think of you, the first thing that springs to mind is…
As you can see from Tony Groom’s challenge and Frankie Jones’ book, there are countless ways to express what you love about a person. So go ahead and take the challenge. Get the book. Put your attention on all the ways you love your spouse and this will open the door to even more love in your life!