Whether you are the parents of a newborn or are soon expecting the arrival of an adorable new little member in your family, your lives are definitely going to undergo a substantial change in the days to come. When my husband and I became new parents, there were some changes like sleepless nights and less time for each other that we expected. What we didn’t realize however, was that being new parents comes with a hoard of surprises that you will have to adjust to as you go. Such situations often caught us off guard thinking –“We hadn’t seen this coming”! Well, here are the top 6 surprises that I came across during my new journey called parenthood and some words of advice for new parents.
6 Things You May Not Expect & Advice For New Parents
1. You Will Forget What Free Time Felt Like
When all that you do revolves around feeding your baby, changing his diapers and putting him to sleep, you’ll realize what a laidback life you’ve lived all this while. In the first couple of weeks after our baby was born, my husband and I struggled hard to align our schedules to that of our baby’s. Things were even harder when my husband was out to work. Let alone finding time for leisure, I had a tough time even managing the basics like showering. Before you hit the panic button, let me tell you that things won’t stay this way forever. Give yourself at least a month before you get into the groove of handling the responsibility of being a parent. Wait for things to get more streamlined with time.
2. Your Relationship With Your Partner With Change
You and your partner were once probably the clichéd romantic couple, who could never get enough of each other. With your little one coming into your lives, you’ll realize how much will change in the relationship that the two of you share. As you two spend all your time with the new love in your lives and get little time alone, you will notice that your bond will only strengthen. Along with love, you two will also develop deep respect for each other. Seeing my pampered husband turn into a deeply caring and responsible dad, gave me another reason to love him with all my heart. With that said, you may want to work on designating a date night at some point to keep the romance alive. These words of advice for new parents are some of the most important. This is a new phase where you may have to work harder on the relationship to keep it a focus with so many other distractions.
3. There Will Be Major Disagreements On Your Baby’s Name
Among the many surprises for new parents, you may be least surprised by this one. Choosing a name for your baby isn’t a task that looms large only on you and your husband. Be ready to have your entire family come up with great (and sometimes not-so-great) name ideas for your baby. My husband and I waited until our son was born to name him, but things would have been far easier had we done our name research well in advance. Ensure that you don’t get bogged down by the name suggestions by your extended family members and choose a name that you and your partner equally like. Sure there will be a lot of disagreements, but looking back in hindsight you’ll realize how much fun the entire process was!
4. Your Social Circle Might Change
While you and your non-mom friends would once bond over impromptu holidays and late night parties, you will now find yourself connecting better with new moms facing the same breastfeeding and nappy-changing troubles as you. As much as you try, things aren’t going to be the same with your old friends, especially if they aren’t parents. When my single girlfriends would plan anything together, they’d ask me to join and my answer would always be -“I can’t”. It reached a stage when they eventually stopped asking and we drifted away.Things weren’t all that bad as I did make a couple of other mommy friends at a park down the road where I’d take my little one out for a stroll, everyday. These are important words of advice for new parents- make other parent friends as you will need their moral support!
5. Your Priorities Will Change
From planning exotic backpacking trips to planning your baby’s future education, your priorities as parents are going to get a major facelift. Bringing a new member into your family means a lot of responsibility, not just physically and emotionally, but also financially. When it comes to your baby, social obligations are sure to take a backseat. My husband happily sacrificed his usual Friday beer nights with his buddies just so he could get more time with our little one.
6. You Will Need A Helping Hand
It’s a good thing to be a hands-on parent, but it’s even better to do that without overburdening yourself. I remember how nightmarish it used to be managing my baby alone without my husband when he’d be off on business tours. In an attempt to avoid bothering anyone, I did (or tried to do) everything by myself and eventually burned out. From that day onwards, I’d ask my mother to live with me whenever my husband would be out travelling. That way, I at least managed to catch some sleep when I needed it. Don’t forget the fact that the only way you can take care of your baby is by taking care of yourself.
I hope you found these words of advice for new parents helpful. Parenthood will bring about a change in the smallest of things, sometimes without you even realizing. One of those is your ability to love unconditionally. Your baby will make you realize the meaning of true love and give you the strength to withstand any troubles that life may have to offer. Your new baby will help you grow into a stronger and a better person. There are a lot of surprises for new parents but there is truly no relationship as pure and beautiful. Enjoy being new parents!