I have been married for 11 years- 12 in March! My goodness, how time flies. Plus, we were together for 9 years before we got married. We met freshman year of college. It was not love at first sight. We were both very involved in our own romantic lives when we first met. Then, when we met again, we both felt a spark but I was not interested at all in a relationship because of timing. But he was just so cute and sweet, I found myself wanting to be around him. He was fun and funny. He was silly and wild. Before you know it, I realized he was just want I needed and wanted. In the beginning you don’t need love romance tips, it is naturally like wildfire.
Fast forward 20 years, and we are still happily married with 2 wonderful kids who are 7 and 9. Marital bliss, right? Well, not exactly. There are times when we have to work at rekindling romance in marriage. You know, you get busy with the job, the kids, the cooking, the cleaning, and you forget to put the effort that a relationship needs to thrive. You make relationship mistakes. So here is your wake up call- you need to put effort into your relationship! Here are my top 10 love romance tips that have helped us keep our marriage strong.
Love Romance Tips- How To Rekinde Romance In Marriage
I love this great love romance quote from John Lennon. It is just like he said:
“We’ve got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can’t just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it’s going to get on by itself. You’ve got to keep watering it. You’ve got to really look after it and nurture it.”
So go ahead, rekindle that romance! Here are ten love romance tips for rekindling the romance to get you started in a process that should never end.
1. Little Things
Love is in the little things. So do little things you know your partner loves or appreciates. And remember to look for the little things your partner does and appreciate them. My husband always takes out the trash- Thanks Sweetie! I always greet him at the door with a kiss.
2. Play That Song
Most couples have certain songs they listened to when they first got together. Dig a few songs up and remind your partner how special they were. “Remember when we first listened to this song in the truck parked under the big oaks?” “Remember when you sang this to me karoke on Bourbon Street?” Enjoy the memories together and show some affection.
3. The Way To The Heart Is Through The Stomach
We’ve all heard that one and even though it is not as simple as just that, a good meal never hurt! Fix your partner’s favorite dinner or bring home their favorite chocolate bar just because. They will enjoy it and it shows them you care and are thinking of them. Some of the best love romance tips are actually in the small details like this.
4. Listen
We all like to be listened to and validated. So let your partner finish the whole story and this time, try not to relate it back to yourself. Just listen and validate them. You don’t always have to fix it. Sometimes we all just want someone to understand how we feel and feel it with us a little bit.
5. Put Your Heart To Paper
Love notes are the best. Something as simple as a handwritten one liner or as long as a letter- whatever moves you. My husband doesn’t ever write me love notes but he does get me the best greeting cards- ones that make me laugh “I hate it when you leave but I love to watch you go (and a hamster with it’s butt wiggling when you open and shut the card)” and cards that tell me he does notice all the little things I do and expresses his love in just the right way. I can always tell he must have looked through a lot of cards to find that perfect card that really puts his heart on the paper.
6. Snuggle
For me, snuggle time is so important to making me relax and feel happy and loving. Take a few minutes in the morning before you get out of bed to cuddle. Cuddle on the couch. Hold hands when you go walking. Enjoy each other’s company. Gentle, affectionate touch helps put you in the mood for more touching;)
7. Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff
Remember in the grand scheme of things, you love each other and the fact that he didn’t put down the toilet seat that one time, well, you might just let it go this once! It is hard to be romantic if you get upset about every detail and visa versa.
8. Do Something New Together
Experiencing something together that is new and fun and exciting may help get you out of a rut. Go ziplining or get NFL tickets or whatever you think you will both enjoy together!
9. Do Something You Haven’t Done Together In Ages
We left the kids and went out dancing on Broadway Street here in Nashville. We hadn’t done that in ages and ages and it was so much fun.
10. Make Time For Intimacy
I know you can be tired after a long day of work or chasing kids. I know this that and the other comes up, but make time. If you have to mentally schedule it in, then do it. Maybe you could create a kid-free date night to start with. Swap sleepovers with a friend who also has kids so you can both get a kid-free night with no babysitting bills. Intimacy is important in relationships and you’ll be glad you gave it the attention it deserves.
OK. Now, enough talk. Go show your partner how much you care about them. They may think you have forgotten! Go ahead, wear your heart on your sleeve, #PutYourHeartToPaper, speak with your actions- start rekindling the romance in your marriage! Do you have any personal stories or advice for rekindling romance? What are your best love romance tips?
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I think your tips are great – and right on about everything. I am going to have to remember to do the “Little Things”.
Marriage takes work. We went to a counseling class before we got married and they told us never to assume that the other person did something intentionally to hurt us. Your spouse isn’t a mind reader and doesn’t know if you don’t tell them.
I agree that you need to continue to date your spouse after you get married. Thank you for sharing these important tips and suggestions.
#4 is huge for me! I really am not a great listener; I’m one of those people that gets so excited to share my thoughts and reactions that I don’t wait for the other person to totally finish. Really bad habit, I know! Thanks for this reminder, as it’s something I need to work on, especially with my hubby.
Love love love these! My hubby and I don’t have a song though there was one that I was always going to play at my wedding and we didn’t have a traditional one. I think I’m going to play the song tonight and dance in the living room together. 🙂
Yep it’s hard work. How about put the computer, iPhone iPad down too. Its the small things and it takes a lot of effort to not take each other for granted.