Whether you’re madly in love or looking to rekindle your love this Valentine’s Day, the suggestions below are surefire ways to jumpstart more luvin’ feelings in your life. Just choose one of these Valentines Day ideas for couples and try it out for excellent results. Or chose more than one of these simple ways to show your love to create a great Valentine’s Day! For those who crave a real love boost, pick a special one for Valentine’s Day and then try one a day of the others for the next 14 days!
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Valentine’s Day Ideas For Couples That Show Your Love
1. Make a Love List. The list should be full of silly, sweet, funny, poignant reasons why you love someone. Keep this list and when you’re mad or disappointed, read this list! When you’re happy and in love, add to this list.
2. Share the things on your Love List. With the person for whom you wrote them, of course. Mail ‘em in a card. Send one text message every hour. Write them on notes and hide them in their shoes or coat pockets. Make a poster. Leave voice messages on their phone.
3. Meet for the first time. Pretend like you are meeting your spouse or beau for the first time. Choose someplace new, where neither of you have ever been. Arrive separately. Catch eyes across the restaurant or café. Introduce yourselves using names you just made up that suit your mood. See them (and yourself) anew.
4. Notice. Surprise your partner with something you know they have been wanting to do, get, or have. You make a candlelight dinner and give them that special attention they crave or you buy him that gizmo he’s been drooling over or offer a hour-long massage and kissfest. This is your chance to show them you notice what they say and what they like and give them that without them having to ask first.
5. Be that person. Be the dashing, witty, sexy, romantic, fun person you have always longed to be in relationship with! Dress up in sexy clothes, tell funny jokes, focus on the positive, talk to strangers, be dynamic and magnetic. Be fresh and new. Don’t think about the past or hold grudges.
6. Listen. Focus all of your attention on them. (Try reflective listening in which you actually repeat back verbatim each sentence they say. It is amazing how good it feels to the recipient to know someone hears every word!). Ask if they have anything else they want to share on the subject. It feels good when your partner actually wants to hear more of what you have to say!
7. Something new. Try something new together that you’ve always wanted to do. Now. New things can breath new life into a relationship. Sometimes we need to get out of old ruts and stir things up.
8. Be silly and fun. Put on your favorite music and dance. Have a sword fight with foam swords. Speak in feigned accents. (When my beau says, “Hey Boo Boo” like Yogi Bear, it is impossible not to laugh!)
9. 10 photos. Collect and print out your ten favorite photos of the two of you in which you’re truly happy. Hang them someplace you’ll see them often. Let yourself feel the joy again and again and again.
10. Be vulnerable. Tell something you wouldn’t tell anyone else or that you’ve been afraid to say. This is one that gets overlooked often but it is through our open hearts that we can really connect.
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11. Choose connection. Be receptive to their thoughts over being right or proving a point. (Ooh, that is hard. But wow, does it pay off in spades!) Just listen and see their point of view. They don’t need you to prove that you are smarter or better or righter. Let this be their day to really be heard for what they have to say and what they think and feel.
12. Explore together. Sometimes you need to pretend you are a tourist and get out and see the sights, experience the attractions, go on a mini road trip or a weekend getaway.
13. Be present. This is one of the most important Valentines Day ideas for couples. This is the number one best way to connect — and the very best gift you can give. Put the phone away for the whole day!
14. Love yourself. Loving the one you’re with starts with YOU. If you love and enjoy yourself, you’re well on your way to loving whatever wonderful and imperfect Valentine is in your life. Make a love list for you and feel good about yourself as you interact with your loved one.
15. Get out in nature together. Go for a hike or stroll through the park. Notice nature and talk about the beauty that you see. Sometimes nature is the perfect way to recharge and remember how blessed we are with the beauties and miracles of life. Making memories like this are important.
Sometime love is in the little things. The way we treat each other says volumes about how we feel deep down. Let your inner well of love guide all your interactions. Which ones of these Valentines Day ideas for couples do you think you will try? Which one had the most meaning to you?
Sherry Richert Belul is mom to a witty and wonderful 10-year-old boy. She is also founder of Simply Celebrate and author of Present Perfect: It Really is the Thought That Counts —an ebook that includes dozens of creative-not-crafty gifts that are fun to make and full of love. Find her books or sign up for Simply Celebrate’s free newsletter at www.SimplyCelebrate.net. Email Sherry to tell her your Love List experiences, ask questions, or learn about the one-of-a-kind tribute books she makes at celebrate@Madmoon.com
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